Kenyan in the US Denied Access to His Son By Former Girlfriend’s Mother Despite Court Order
A Kenyan man living in the US is embroiled in a tussle with his former girlfriend’s mother, who has denied him access to his two-year-old son.
Peter Njoroge Gathiaka accuses the boy’s grandmother Hellen Waitherero Mubea of disregarding a court order allowing him to visit and bond with his son.
In an interview with a local news outlet, Njoroge said he met his former girlfriend Joan Wambui and helped her emigrate to the US where they started a relationship that led to the birth of their son in December 2018.
When the two traveled to Kenya to visit and introduce the baby to their parents, Njoroge says Joan and her mother Hellen executed a well-thought-out plan to exclude him from his life without his knowledge.
Njoroge went back to the US and left his son in Kenya with his mother but was shocked to learn that Joan also returned to the US in December 2019 and left the baby under the care of Hellen, a headteacher at a Kiambu school.
Joan and her mother have allegedly been demanding Sh75,000 in monthly child upkeep from Njoroge after he broke up with her when he learned that she was irresponsible.
Njoroge says he last saw his son on his first birthday in December 2019 when he delivered him a birthday cake.
On August 6th, Kiambu Senior Resident Magistrate Wilson Rading ordered Njoroge be granted access to his son at a mutually agreed venue between Friday 10:00 am and Monday 10:00 am but Hellen allegedly fled with the boy to an unknown location.
“I was informed by neighbors and security guards that Waitherero hurriedly came home and left with my son to an unknown location. We have sought the help of local police officers in tracing them but have been unsuccessful,” said Njoroge.
Njoroge has moved back to the court for further directions.
Comments (84)
What are you fighting? Privide support and Let the baby grow.
What is he fighting for? You mean comprehension is that difficulty? Please reread th whole thing so that you can understand what he is fighting for!
Children, despite what you might believe, need their fathers and fathers need their children. Is it so hard for you to believe he wants to share in his child's life in every way? They need to establish some form of joint custody so the child benefits from having both parents in their life.
The mother (I did not say the lone mother-in-law because she is immaterial in this case) should provide a conducive environment for Njoroge to support his son!
That is what the man is fighting for - like it or not! He is also entitled to visit with his son if he is expected to provide financial support! The mother and the father should meet in a common place so that Njoroge can also bond with the son! Mambo ya Vichoro choro tuache Kando.
Is that clear now @chokola?
He is being scammed
I would like to share my story but that won't help anyone. I think some mothers-in-law smoke weed, meth, crack, and God knows what else. Clarence Carter did a song about one of them in the 1970s. Find it on YouTube.
Share the story @kibe; please share it! We want to hear what that money hungry kikuyu woman and her mother did to you! Now remember the “handshake” applies to everything across the board! Just saying……
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Ok @akinyi - uka haha mwendwa!! We can begin our handshake right there!
In my case it had nothing to do with money but even after I moved on, I developed cold feet towards my new mother-in-law. I developed a new philosophy, "mothers-in-law are only supposed to visit but not move-in and their visitation should only be once a year and only for less than a day.
I am glad that you have moved on and doing well! I agree with you that any woman who drags her mother along with her into a marriage is not wise! Mother’s-in-law can be a real pain in a marriage! @kibe, did you finally find another significant other? The “shake hand” deal is still open! What’s up?
Weee wewe @akinyi! Wacha maneno mingi! @kibe alisema yuko na vifaranga wawili! Pengine na bibi pia! Do you want to be a home wrecker? I know polygamy is also an option but si wewe utafute Kijana mwingine?
If @Kibe is single, Akinyi is free to pursue furthermore @Kamau is intrigued. Further down, Mary has piqued someone's interest. There was a story in these pages picked up from the Standard about diaspora men and women not being on the same page. Kweli that was upuzi mtupu. Kamau, Akinyi sounds like a well bred, vibrant and adventurous young lady. Probably likes them tall intellectually and physically fit, down for whatever kind of men.
Wow @mundumugo - you sure describe me well! Perfect, that is totally me! Well educated and widely traveled! I got my on good paying job too…
Just don’t pay a dime if the baby is in kenya n u cannot access him??If u go to family court in usa n price u have bin sending the monies to the Bitch n the baby is in kenya she will b told to refund u the monies.Bro if yr wife denies u to access yr children just forget them n move on otherwise utakufa namastress zako.Get another lady n start producing babies n forget the one in kenya n don’t send any dime my bratha.
I like your advice Sir.
Well, well, well!! I hate to admit it but I will join this ongoing “me-too” for men! We are not seeking sympathy but we are telling the world how these Kenyan women treat us - a little more like some forsaken bustards!! I feel good now for opening up to fight for myself!
He thought it's a great idea leaving a family he created behind to search greener pastures? Seems like a self induced situation.
Njoroge, mistake number one was bringing a woman to the US from Kenya. You should never do that. You helped an opportunist migrate and she took advantage. Good thing she didn’t take you to court and make you pay child support.
Yep one very risky move.” Ati wasichana wa US ni vichwa ngumu let me go get an innocent one from Kenya. “Nope. Doesnt work like that. If you are in the US, get yourself a woman you are in the same page with within the US
Well @mary! I tend to agree with your assertion but the problem is the Kenyan women in the US are all drunkards and wants to wear trousers up to the nose on men!
They only want to have sex on top of the men and nothing more than that! And again those women in the US want to keep a man impoverished by consuming every bit of the money a man makes while depositing all their money!
I will stay with my kamuzungu!! At least they don’t yell day and night and are fun to have in bed!
What kind of nonsense is that @mary?
It says a lot about your character and where you hang out if you only meet Kenyan drunk women and money grabbers-must be your character that attracts such low lives. I have met quite many and they do not fall under this stupid generalization most men keep speaking of and I have met many Kikuyu women who are not money grabbers. The comments here from some folks tells a lot who they are attracting in their lives. I usually do not meet these characters where I chose to spend my social life. Food for thought @mla chake!
Ati Kamuzungu, you meant white trash low life whites .... waoh if your go to is a white person, then you are as low as those Kenyan women you are bashing here . Hiyo ngozi inanuka ngoja afike 40 years and/or you are one of those with OBESE ones , sura mbaya type if their fellow White men gave up on
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Wacha Kelele wewe Kama punda huko musituni! You are probably a drunkard like those you are defending! You are the last dog to tell me where I need to go to get a social life! As for my dame, you have no business telling me the size I need to date!
However, she is 5’8”, slender @112 lbs, nicely rounded, well educated with a background in civil engineering and holds a very well paying job!
And how about you with your Kenyan women gold diggers?
Why are you so bitter with some body else”s choices? At least he is honest!
@mynameis - the brothers who hang out with white women get the finest among the pack! I ain’t seen a brother holding on to an ugly while girl! As a matter of fact, the white boys are as jealous as you are describing a woman you have not seen. They even ask their women, “what do you see in this bigger boy”? Now your jealous has consumed you to a point you have turned out very bitter! The Kenyan guys are increasingly dating white women because you (if you are a Kenyan woman) have failed them with your ugly behavior. White chics do not play the games to you play in a relationship! They are straight forward and no shenanigans! Wake up woman!!
Wow Mary! You are quite reasonable! Can we hook up?
lmao...completely agree...All these women in USA you go get one from kenya, help her with makartasi, train her...nahhh not doing that..not even for a man
huh??? ( scratching head.... I will wait for someone to come explain this to me..)
“He was shocked to learn that his girlfriend had returned to the USA” . Sounds like your plans were to leave her but she was wiser.
I’m not surprised that you would make such a biased assumption simply because you are an old woman! Did you take a minute to think maybe she went back to Kenya because she was pregnant and couldn’t work to help out with the bills, etc!
Again giving birth in America is expensive compared to the cost in Kenya! There is no wisdom in her returning back to the US with proper communication and coordination with Njoroge!
This kind of a woman make all the Kenyan women in the US look bad! No wonder Kenyan men are now running away from us very fast as we age without life partners or even love!
Please repeat what you just said again! Mostly the kikuyu women are too arrogant and they make men run away fast - Ati mbeca kila saa….
I have dated four very beautiful kikuyu women but the demands made me run away fast! It is like buying an old Mercedes Benz when you are just making $10 an hour!!
Aki Edgar, mimi ni mkiuk lakini hiyo yako ni kali! Ati akin to buying an old Mercedes when one is earning only £10? Ngai! Hiyo shade....nimecheka sana, lakini dare I say you have been mixing with the wrong ones, mainly the ones perhaps located along a certain road in NRB? Ama those glorified ones masquerading as slay queens?
I mean, anyone can buy an old Benz! But the cost of fixing that old Benz is huge! I like the kiuk chics but I also do not like being broke all the time trying to keep up with the high maintenance cost being pushed to live like the rich and famous kind of life!
I’m just being honest sababu every kikuyu dame I meet is highly expensive!!!!
Kweli @sukari - these days it is hard for a guy to afford a woman, no matter which tribe, if you have shallow pockets!
But it’s the first time I have heard a dude comparing a woman with an old Mercedes Benz which sucks all the money in doing repairs!
Huyu rafiki hapa amenichekeza machoziii…! Surely we need these kind of funny stories to keep life going! Surely @Edgar can really tell good women stories! I have laughed so hard Macy zinauma sana!!!
Maybe it was you ?
@namemeis - well, @edgar is speaking his story with four different kikuyu women who turned out to be highly expensive as “having an old Mercedes Benz car” that gambles all the money getting repaired at the the Autobahn shop!
He did not say that kikuyu women were bad! He just said they are unrealistic and greedy! He only said they are quite material beings. Most of them want a man to flip the c oh st if everything while “their” money is locked up in a bank account. He is saying what to him with 4 solid kikuyu women.
As you know, we are all living in a material world but love should not lender a man broke! You can expect a man to live beyond his means and expect him to function well in debts! @edgar just run away to save the little money “Wanjiru” couldn’t put her hands on….
The kikuyu sisters should work hand in hand in contributing to the highly expensive lifestyle they want a man to provide. Uschukie a man who is narrating his experience!
Uko na akili ingine umebakisha mahali ama ni hii tu uko nayo? nkt
Wow mama raila, ume-try! Wait until the same situation happens to your Ochieng! We will see what you will say then….. kind of stupid what you have said here!!
@njoroge - hawa wake wa kiambu! Wemecunua Maithili ni Mbaka - eee - ni mbeca, mbeca, mbeca ile ile tu! You should never fall in love with a Kenyan woman and then end up sponsoring her to the the USA the land of gossip, rummours, jealousy, etc!
Why would you marry a woman from Kenya while already in the USA? Wazungu niwengi huko, and they love black brothers!
Forget the whole saga and start a new life! The boy will come looking for you when time is ripe! You are trying too hard Njoroge to deal with a lunatic kiambu mother in law! As a matter of fact, you should not have to talk to an illiterate animal in the mother in law!
Wewe Njoroge tafuta another beautiful one and forget your takataka that is now married by your nana-in-law! It is time to play some hard ball!
Taking care of the Kid should come before Bonding.
Why name and names and profession. The child is a us citizen and if you meant to get him back you can. Just contact social services and get the advice of full custody. You can become a full time parent and she can be the visitor but if you are a party boy who want to see the child at your leisure the child is better off wherever he is. Some stories are better if kept private.
Here is the deal to the Kenyan men abroad! Going back to Kenya to get a shangi’s ignorant girl to marry will not for you! As a matter of fact, it is a much bigger problem than you may think.
That woman has no much experience in life! When she gets abroad, her eyes open up in the wrong way and she starts building her own life devoid of your meager efforts to survive and especially if you are not a US citizen.
Then all over a sadden shinda zinaingia and vituko begins. I would advise those guys going home to look for suitors to be very careful not to be conned. All the women see in you is dollar signs when you are coming from abroad! Why do you want to go pick up a girl that has never paid any bills or worked any where to know the basic mechanics of living? You guys beat me!
Why not take your time and search for a good woman that is already in the US and has lived through similar experiences with you? Some one who understands the value of work! Someone who has paid some bills, and someone who understands how to make personal decisions without always having to consult with the mother!
In Njoroge’s case, there is no relationship here! I would recommend you move on with life! However, you still got to support your child since you took a bath inside there without the rubber!
It is too late now @cheistine because your brother @ Njoroge is already hocked up of these tonics! All the woman’s family want is money! Possibly the girlfriend’s mother is now planning on retiring from her teaching job because Njoroge has offered her a new job in a grandson (source of constant monthly income) for the next 21 years! All the reason they are hogging on the baby! Don’t play with a kiambu old mother in law - ni biashara tu!
Kenyan men have become endangered species by those women they rush to collect on the streets of Nairobi! But I don’t think the diaspora men understand that as they are quickly running away from us! - just jumping from the cooking pan right into the fire.
And of course there are Kenyan women who are doing the same thing to men here in the US! I know several who are doing it to materially tie down a man. And it is working because men are greedy and the sight of pontoon make them go nuts!
You get what you get when you start rushing home to pick a country girl that has nothing in her pockets or in her head! It is what it is guys!
Not all girls from the village will be feminist,miss independent, argumentative know it all, some are realistic and ready to settle down, from my experience it has been good, Seven years together two kids and still counting.
Does she have a younger sister because I am seriously looking….??? I’m 28… maybe a good reference will end up well…. Fingered crossed…. I say maybe!
BEST COMMENT EVER. Am still reading the comments!
Not sure when KenyaN men will learn Kenyan ladies to them kids is a business not family. 1 in 3 relationships there is something with courts. It’s not about family or kids any more . I have seen many many kids belonging to Kenyans living in the US being raised by court orders, child support, visitation rights and it’s pathetic that’s not how we were raised. There is no maturity when it comes to coparenting. My simple advise before you engage in any relationships either both of you agree more like a pre nup before kids., men protect yourselves from this economic vultures and only date someone doing better than you not the other way round.. this stories Sijui you helped someone and expect pity party brother utaumia..
Not sure when KenyaN men will learn Kenyan ladies to them kids is a business not family. 1 in 3 relationships there is something with courts. It’s not about family or kids any more . I have seen many many kids belonging to Kenyans living in the US being raised by court orders, child support, visitation rights and it’s pathetic that’s not how we were raised. There is no maturity when it comes to coparenting. My simple advise before you engage in any relationships either both of you agree more like a pre nup before kids., men protect yourselves from this economic vultures and only date someone doing better than you not the other way round.. this stories Sijui you helped someone and expect pity party brother utaumia..
Surely having a kid with a Kenyan woman is a huge business and especially if you are a man of means! That quick sex without condom is really expensive! Wrap up guys and don’t be getting stupidly in love! The definition of live have change; very completely!
You will produce a baby that you will only be Baba wa mkate by paying some hefty child support to some whoring idiot some place!
For the “Mather-in-laws - please butt off your daughter’s relationships!! Please you are a grown woman and should become a road side gold digging trash to a guy who is just trying to make it in life!
And for those women who are doing this shit - please cut it out! Don’t be a goddon gold digger when you can get your own freaking job to support your lazy ass!
Guys - you got to think seriously especially when CIKU just drops some g-string pants and shakes that bundi for you! It is very expensive guys and we keep on falling in these traps! All that glitters is not gold! Use your head wisely!!